The sand ritual Symbolic, modern and as individual as you are

How to make this popular wedding ritual personal, international and unforgettable

The sand ritual is one of the most popular moments in secular wedding ceremonies - and for good reason. It is aesthetically beautiful, easy to perform and represents the heart of every partnership: two lives, two stories, two families that merge together without losing their individual colors.

As a wedding officiant specializing in multicultural, multilingual and international wedding couples, I am always particularly pleased when couples bring in their own ideas from their countries of origin. With the sand ritual, the possibilities are incredibly diverse - and often surprisingly creative.

The origin of the sand ritual - briefly explained

The sand ritual has its origins in Hawaiian and indigenous traditions and was later used primarily in beach ceremonies. Sand that flows into each other and can never be separated again symbolizes:
We belong together and no wind in the world can blow us apart.

Today, it has become a modern ritual that suits couples who want to make diversity, connection, lightness and depth visible.

The classic sequence of the sand ritual

Traditionally, you pour your sand from two containers into one common container.
You can alternate layers or let it flow at the same time - each variant tells its own story.

The filled container is then sealed and remains as a work of art and a memento of your wedding ceremony.

But this is where the creativity begins.

International & personalized options for multicultural couples

1. Sand from your countries, regions or favorite places - or very personal alternatives

For couples from different cultures, this ritual is a wonderful way to connect your origins.

Examples:

• You met while traveling → use sand from these countries.

• You connect certain beaches from your youth or family history → bring sand from there.

• Guests travel internationally → asks them to bring sand from their home country.

And the best thing is:
It doesn't always have to be classic sand. If sand has no special meaning for you, you can use other natural materials - any variation will tell your story:

• Soil from your own garden, as a symbol of growth and home.

• Sand from your old sandpit where you played as children - a touching sign of your life's journey.

• Earth from your parents' or grandparents' homeland, as a connection to your family roots.

This creates a vessel full of elements that come from your life and your cultures.

2. Integration of the guests - a community ritual

Especially for international weddings, where families often come from different countries, this ritual is perfect for including guests.

Ideas:

• All guests bring a small test tube with sand/earth from their country or region.

• Guests can choose their color and explain why they have chosen this shade.

• Each guest says a wish or blessing in their native language before adding the sand.

A jar like this is not just decorative - it becomes an emotional collective work.

3. For patchwork families or weddings with children

If children are to be involved, the sand ritual is particularly suitable.

Possibilities:

• Each person gets their own color.

• Children start the ritual and you water afterwards.

• At the end, you seal the jar together - as a visible sign of your family bond.

4. Colors with meaning - your relationship in tones

Colors can have a symbolic meaning and make your values visible:

• Gold - abundance, appreciation

• Blue - trust, depth

• Red - love, vitality

• White - clarity, peace

• Green - hope, solidarity

Many couples choose colors from their national flags or shades that reflect the world they share.

5. Your multilingual sand ritual

As a wedding officiant who conducts ceremonies in German, English, French, Dutch, Danish and Italian, the sand ritual can be performed bilingually or even trilingually.

Ideas:

• Each shift is announced in two or three languages.

• Personal sentences from your life are woven into the multilingual text.

• Guests may add requests in their native language.

This creates a ritual that visibly celebrates your cultural diversity.

6. Not always a glass jar - creative alternatives like the sand picture frame

The classic choice is the glass jar. But many couples want an alternative that they can hang up in a visible place later on.

A wonderful option:

The sand picture frame

The sand trickles from the side or from above into a transparent frame, which later hangs on the wall like a work of art.
Advantages:

• decorative

• Visible in everyday life

• stable & safe

• Ideal for colored sand or sand from different countries

A memory that doesn't disappear into the cupboard, but becomes part of your home.

A magical final moment

The ritual becomes particularly emotional if you choose a personal song during the pouring.
And a tip from experience:
A kiss at the exact moment when the last grains of sand fall makes for unforgettable photos.

About me. I am Katja Nielsen

I am a wedding officiant specializing in multilingual, multinational and international couples who want a personal, modern and authentic ceremony.
With experience from over 50 weddings all over Europe, I will organize your wedding ceremony in German, English, French, Dutch, Italian and Danish - warm, humorous and full of personality.

Would you like a ceremony that reflects your history and your cultures?
Then I look forward to a non-binding introductory meeting!

The ring exchange in the secular wedding ceremony - how you can make this classic ritual creatively modern and individual

Ideas for your ring exchange to make it a very special and personal moment

The ring exchange is one of the most emotional rituals of a wedding. In many secular wedding ceremonies, it is a central symbol of connection, permanence and mutual promise. However, like all elements of a secular wedding ceremony, the ring exchange can be designed in such a way that it really suits you - your personality, your history and your way of expressing love.

As an international wedding officiant for multilingual and multicultural couples, I am often asked how this ritual can be made more modern, personal or unique. Especially when the official ring exchange has already taken place at the registry office.

Here are the most beautiful, creative and individual ideas.

1. The classic ring exchange - personally interpreted

Even the traditional ring exchange can be personalized in a secular wedding ceremony:

• Personal words before exchanging the rings

• Ritual objects such as a shell, a wooden bowl or a jewelry box from your home country

• Involvement of an important person who presents the rings

• Symbolic gestures, e.g. opening a ring box together

These little details turn a familiar ritual into your very own personal moment.

2. Ring exchange during the secular wedding ceremony, if rings have already been exchanged at the registry office

Many couples still want a special moment in the ceremony. A beautiful variation is:

The time capsule - a personal ritual of remembrance

Place the rings you have already exchanged together in a time capsule filled with:

• Photos from your relationship

• Wishes from your guests in different languages

• small memories & symbols of your countries of origin

• Tickets, travel souvenirs or mini letters

Before you put on your new ceremony rings, seal the capsule ceremoniously.

An emotional highlight - perfect for multilingual or international weddings.

3. Puzzle rings - a modern, symbolic ring exchange

Not everyone likes to wear a ring every day, especially people who work a lot with their hands. A creative solution is a:

Puzzle ring or split design

Have two rings made that complement each other, fit together or merge into each other.

One of you can carry one on behalf of both of you.

A modern ritual for couples who want a common symbol - without two classic wedding rings.

4. Different rings for different personalities

You don't have to wear identical wedding rings. It can be more personal, especially for secular weddings:

• Heavy Metal or Gothic

• Boho or minimalist

• Vintage, medieval or statement jewelry

• Precious stones instead of gold

• Dissimilar shapes or colors

Have your rings custom-made to match your styles, lifestyles and backgrounds. Your rings can be as unique as your relationship.

5. Alternative symbols to the ring - tattoos, piercings & more

A ring is just a symbol. For some couples, something else feels much more authentic.

Creative alternatives to the classic ring exchange

• Same partner tattoo

• A common piercing or the same earring

• Bracelets or necklaces with a special pendant that you design yourself

• Stones or talismans that carry a meaning

• A mini work of art that you give to each other

• A key, compass or piece of fabric with symbolic value

Especially in a secular wedding ceremony, there are no rules - only what connects you.

6. A symbolic exchange without a ring

You can also create a powerful ritual without a ring:

• exchanging small messages that you keep in a small box

• handing over your first love letters

• a sand ritual, supplemented by a symbolic object

• a handfasting combined with a small exchange gift

Sometimes the freedom to create something new is the best moment of the day.

Why an individual ring exchange is so powerful

A personal ring exchange makes your secular wedding ceremony:

• emotional

• modern

• authentic

• unforgettable

• Unique for you and your guests

Especially at international, multilingual or intercultural weddings, this moment is a universal symbol that unites all guests - regardless of the language.

Conclusion: Your ring exchange can be anything - except ordinary

Whether classic, expanded, renewed or completely freely interpreted:

The ring exchange is a ritual that you can organize however you like.

If you would like, I would be happy to help you develop a ring ritual that tells your story - light, festive, creative and absolutely you.

I am Katja Nielsen, international wedding officiant specialized in multilingual and multicultural secular wedding ceremonies. With over 50 ceremonies across Europe, I create solemn, personal and humorous weddings in German, English, French, Dutch, Danish and Italian - always with a lot of heart , creativity and your story at the center.

If you want a ceremony that unites your love, your cultures and your languages, I look forward to meeting you.

For a non-binding inquiry, you can reach me at any time via the contact form on my website or directly by e-mail mail@katjanielsenmorethanwords.eu

A shared ritual in your secular wedding ceremony - When every flower is a symbol

When your guests design the bouquet of your values

Why rituals make a secular wedding ceremony so special

A secular wedding ceremony is much more than a series of beautiful words - it is a shared experience. If you want your ceremony to be personal, lively and full of meaning, a ritual that actively involves your guests can be one of the most touching moments of your day.

This flower ritual combines symbolism, community and aesthetics in a wonderful way. It not only gives you, but also your guests, the opportunity to become part of your love story.

The idea: every flower tells a story

Each flower stands for something - for a quality, an emotion, a wish.
Imagine this: Each of your guests brings a flower that has a special meaning for him or her.

Sunflower - joie de vivre
Rose - love
Eucalyptus - clarity
Wheat stalk - abundance and gratitude
Lavender - calm and trust
Camellia - admiration and affection

The result is a bouquet full of values, wishes and emotions - a living symbol of your connection.

The process: A shared moment of solidarity

During the ceremony, your guests come forward one by one and place their flower in a large vase.
If you wish, each person can say a sentence about the meaning of the flower - for example:
"This flower stands for courage - may it accompany you on all paths."

This moment can be designed as the ceremonial opening of your wedding ceremony or directly before the wedding act when it comes to saying "I do" together.

As your wedding officiant, I accompany the ritual and ask in advance which flower each person chooses. This allows me to incorporate the symbolism of the bouquet into my words and reflect your values in this colorful picture.

After the wedding ceremony: a lasting memory

The bouquet that your guests have created together can be dried or pressed.
Many artists offer to create a work of art from it - for example, a floral relief or a picture under plexiglass with your wedding date.

You will not only be left with the memory of the moment, but also of the love that carried you from all directions.

Alternatives: Trees, herbs and stones

Perhaps it's not flowers but twigs, grasses or medicinal plants that appeal to you more.
These can also be used to create a wonderful ritual:

Olive branch - peace and stability
Oak leaves - strength and cohesion
Rosemary - remembrance and loyalty
Lemon tree branch - freshness and new beginnings

Alternatively, your guests can also bring small stones, shells or souvenirs - each symbol carries a wish. You place these together in a bowl or on your "path of love".

The possibilities for personalizing this ritual are endless.

Conclusion: A ritual that connects

A ritual including your guests in your secular wedding ceremony is more than just a nice detail - it is an expression of your values, your history and your connection to the people who are important to you.
It adds depth, symbolism and poetry to your ceremony - and creates memories that last.

Your wedding officiant for multilingual, personal ceremonies

If you are still looking for your wedding officiant - especially if you as a couple come from different cultures or speak several languages - and you want someone who will not only accompany you, but also support you with many ideas to make your ceremony and rituals truly personal and valuable, then I look forward to getting to know you.
I specialize in creating multilingual, multinational secular wedding ceremonies that reflect all your facets. You can find me in Brussels, Paris, Copenhagen, Berlin, Düsseldorf and wherever your favorite destination for your wedding is. I can accompany you in German, Danish, English, French, Danish, Dutch and Italian.
Simply book a non-binding introductory meeting - and together we will find out how your wedding ceremony should sound, feel and shine.

Yours, Katja Nielsen
With "More than words" I stand for festive and cheerful ceremonies with a touch of humor.

Throwing yarn - a ritual that connects

A joyful, colorful moment with deep meaning

When colorful balls of yarn suddenly fly through the air at the end of the ceremony, laughter is guaranteed. The ritual of throwing wool is one of those modern, lively rituals that not only create beautiful images, but also carry a powerful symbolism: we are connected to each other - as a couple, as a family, as a community.

Wool or yarn in general stands for warmth, security, protection and for all the threads that weave life together. Each thread stands for a story, a relationship, a moment. Throwing wool creates a net - a visible symbol that love and friendship catch, carry and connect us.

Origin and meaning

The ritual of throwing wool is not a centuries-old tradition, but a modern development of the classic rice or flower throwing. Instead of symbolizing luck and fertility, the focus here is on togetherness.

The idea: When guests throw colorful balls of yarn and they get caught up in each other, a web is created - a common fabric of threads, colors and relationships. This web reflects life: diverse, colorful, unpredictable - and yet connected by love.

How you can make the ritual even more personal

This ritual can be wonderfully individualized, especially for multilingual or international weddings. This allows you to actively and creatively involve your guests:

• Ask your guests to bring a ball of yarn - preferably made from different materials such as cotton, cashmere, sheep's wool, alpaca, silk, hemp, recycled polyester or a natural fiber. Just like you, your surroundings are made up of different "fabrics" - each with their own characteristics and stories.

• Provide a color idea: Maybe have everyone bring a specific color that connects you - or choose colors that appear in your ceremony.

• Or connect it to your roots: If nationality or origin is important to you, you can ask your guests to bring balls of yarn in the colors of their flag:

  • Red/white for Denmark

  • Green for Ireland

  • Orange for the Netherlands

  • Black/red/gold for Germany

  • Blue/white/red for France

  • Blue/yellow for Sweden

  • Blue/red/white for Great Britain, the USA or Australia

There are endless possibilities to fill this ritual with meaning and make it feel right for you.

An idea for the process

Before the ritual begins, all guests can place their balls of yarn in a beautiful basket. Just before it starts, ask them to come forward, take their ball of yarn and - if they like - say a sentence or a short quote about the meaning of the color or fiber.

Then it comes alive: After saying "I do", exchanging rings and kissing, you give yourselves a moment to enjoy the moment. And then it's time to throw!

Perhaps the best man or someone from the family will give the starting signal:
"Ready... 1, 2, 3 - GO!"

Now the balls of wool fly through the rows, guests throw them at each other - and slowly a colorful net is created. It connects, protects and catches you.

When the net is tight enough, I give the signal as officiant
"Arms up!"

Everyone lifts the strings together and the net floats above you - while festive music plays, announcing the transition to the celebration.

It is particularly beautiful and unforgettable when you pause for a moment, stop under the floating net and kiss. This moment makes for magical, emotional photos - full of color, movement and meaning.

You then go out under this colorful, light net - carried by community, joy and a feeling of deep connection.

Conclusion: A ritual full of life, color and meaning

Yarn throwing is much more than an original program item - it is a symbol of closeness, diversity and cohesion. Every fiber stands for a story, every thread for a connection. The result is a ritual that will not only make you and your guests smile, but will be remembered forever.

The promise of love - as personal as you are

Ideas for exchanging your vows

Every love story is unique

Every couple is different. Every love story is wonderful, magical and unique in its own way. And the moment in which you make your promise to each other can be just as individual.
In my role as a wedding officiant, I accompany couples from different countries and cultures, often in several languages, in front of an international audience. I always try to get a feel for your personalities - so that together we can find a way to make this important moment of your wedding ceremony as personal as possible.

Your stage - your moment

If you are stage people, like to be the center of attention, love to speak and show your feelings openly - then of course your vows should be spoken out loud into the microphone in front of all your guests.

If one of you is a little more reserved, why not whisper the promise quietly into your partner's ear?
Or - if you both prefer to keep the moment very intimate - simply say your words without a microphone, accompanied by soft music in the background.

Symbolic forms of the marriage vows

There are also beautiful symbolic variations:
For example, you can give each other a flower or a branch - a gesture full of meaning that matches your personality and your love story.

Your promise could be enclosed as a small message on a note or in a roll of paper
and you only read it after the ceremony, in a quiet moment for two, while your guests are already toasting with a glass of champagne.

Here are some inspiring examples:

• Sunflower - stands for joie de vivre, warmth and light. It always turns towards the sun - just as you turn towards each other.

• Lavender - symbolizes peace, trust and serenity. A sign of a relationship that is at peace with itself and radiates harmony.

• Amaryllis - stands for strength, self-confidence and passion. Perfect for couples who support each other in their strength.

• Olive branch - stands not only for peace, but also for constancy, loyalty and balance. The olive tree often lives for centuries - a symbol of love that stands the test of time.

• Cherry blossom - a reminder of the transience and preciousness of the moment. It stands for renewal and the beauty of living in the now.

• Lotus flower - symbolizes purity, spiritual growth and rebirth. It grows up from the mud and blossoms untouched in the light - a strong sign of the power of love that grows beyond challenges.

• Eucalyptus branch - stands for protection, healing and renewal. Its fresh energy brings lightness and vitality to your new life together.

• Lemon tree - symbolizes joie de vivre, freshness and fertility. In Mediterranean countries, it is considered a lucky charm for a marriage full of energy, humor and sunny moments.

• Rosemary - stands for remembrance and loyalty, and has been a classic wedding herb for centuries.

• Vine - embodies abundance, pleasure and solidarity - like vines that twine around each other and grow together.

• Myrtle - is a traditional symbol of love and fertility and has accompanied wedding ceremonies since ancient times.

Not afraid of big feelings

As you can see, there's no need to get nervous if the thought of speaking out loud in front of everyone makes you uncomfortable. Just talk to your wedding officiant - we always have a creative and loving solution that suits you.

The language of love - taken literally

As a wedding officiant I specialize in multilingual secular wedding ceremonies - in German, English, French, Dutch, Danish and Italian - I often encourage my couples to say their vows in their native language.
Or - even more touching - in the language of their partner.
This not only shows appreciation, but is also a beautiful sign of love, even if the accent resonates charmingly.

As this is a very personal moment, I do not translate the vows live.
Instead, I prepare a small roll of paper with the translation for your guests - lovingly laid out on each seat or distributed before the start. When the moment arrives and all guests open the parchment at the same time, a very special, festive atmosphere is created:
Everyone feels that they are witnessing your unique moment of love.

If you say YES ...

And if you say YES - in Brussels or somewhere in Belgium, in Berlin, Hamburg, Düsseldorf, Koblenz, along the Moselle and the Rhine and the Belgian-German border region, in the north of Europe, Copenhagen, somewhere in Denmark, in Paris and surroundings, in Champagne, in the south of France, in Luxembourg or at your very personal favorite destination - then I look forward to celebrating your story and your vows in a ceremony that truly reflects you and your love.

True to my motto:
"More than words" - festive and cheerful with a dash of humor
Your Katja Nielsen

Please contact me for a non-binding introductory meeting. There are still free wedding dates for 2026 and 2027

If symbolic gestures appeal to you, discover my ideas for the candle ritual in the secular wedding ceremony - a moment full of warmth and light.

For couples who like to actively involve all their guests, I recommend the Ring Warming Ritual - a loving gesture with deep meaning.

More about multilingual secular weddings and international weddings can be found here - with many examples from Brussels, Denmark and France.

The Ring Warming Ritual - wedding rings full of love, wishes and warmth

A ritual that connects hearts

The so-called ring warming ritual or "warming of the rings" is a wonderful way to actively involve all your guests in your secular wedding ceremony.
It creates an upbeat and at the same time deeply touching atmosphere - full of connection, loving thoughts and warmth of heart.

This ritual is ideal for couples with many international guests, in a multilingual, secular ceremony: each person can express their affection in their own way - with words, thoughts, prayers or a silent wish.

How the ring warming ritual works

Before the ceremony, as your wedding officiant I lay out a beautiful ribbon - preferably in your wedding colors or in a color that has a special meaning for you.
This ribbon zigzags through the rows of your guests.

A person who is particularly close to you is given the task of placing the rings on the ribbon.
They are then passed from hand to hand via the ribbon, accompanied by good wishes, loving thoughts or - for those for whom spirituality is important - a small blessing or prayer.

The rings absorb all this energy along the way until they reach the bride and groom at the front - warmed by all the people who love and accompany you.
This is followed by your ring exchange, which feels even more meaningful thanks to this ritual.

Why this ritual is so special

The ring warming ritual brings movement, encounters and emotion to the ceremony.
Many small, magical moments arise:
A smile, a quiet "Oh wow, beautiful", a brief eye contact, perhaps even a tear of emotion.
Your guests feel that they are part of your big moment - and you feel that you are carried.

These rings will accompany you on your journey together - as a daily reminder of your promise and of the many loved ones who symbolically opened their hands and hearts to you on this day.

My tip as a wedding officiant

If you decide on the ring warming, plan enough time and suitable music.
Whether you prefer the ritual to be quiet and meditative or lively and cheerful is entirely up to you - as always with a secular wedding ceremony:
It should feel genuine, light and harmonious for you.

Conclusion

The Ring Warming Ritual is a wonderful symbol of love, community and mindfulness.
A moment that connects - and shows that your love is not just between two people, but within a whole circle of closeness, friendship and family.

📍 I accompany multilingual secular wedding ceremonies in
Brussels, Belgium, Germany (Hamburg, Berlin, Düsseldorf), France (Champagne, Provence, Région Parisienne), Luxembourg and Denmark (Copenhagen & Sjaelland)
I would be happy to advise you on how you can design this ritual in your personal ceremony.

Mixing your wedding cocktail - a cheerful ritual for your secular wedding ceremony

Not every ceremony has to be solemn and formal. Many couples want a relaxed, cheerful and personal secular wedding ceremony that still has meaning.
If you recognize yourself in this, the ritual "Mixing your wedding cocktail" or the "Shot of Love" is just right for you.

Both rituals revolve around drinks - and both can easily be implemented in an alcohol-free version. The result is a cheerful, interactive and symbolic gesture that fits perfectly with a modern, secular wedding ceremony.

The wedding cocktail

As a wedding officiant, I particularly like to suggest this ritual to multilingual couples with different cultural backgrounds. It is a wonderful way to show how two individual personalities can become a harmonious blend.

The idea: you mix a cocktail together that reflects you as a couple.
Perhaps one of you is sparkling and lively like Prosecco, while the other person adds depth and warmth - like dark rum or berry liqueur. Together you create a composition that is perfectly balanced - just like your relationship.

A few inspirations:

• Tropical Love - pineapple juice, coconut water and a splash of rum (or coconut syrup for the non-alcoholic version).

• Spicy Spark - Ginger beer, lime juice and a hint of chili or cinnamon - for couples with a fiery temperament.

• Golden Harmony - apple juice, elderflower syrup and a little lemon zest - elegant, fresh and harmonious.

You can prepare the cocktail in a large glass carafe or punch bowl so that guests can taste it later at the reception.
Or you can share the first sip directly during your wedding ceremony as a symbolic "toast to your love".

Many couples involve their best man, family or close friends: Each person brings an ingredient and says a few words about it - what it symbolizes (e.g. sweetness, depth, freshness, passion).
This is especially nice for multilingual and multicultural weddings: each person can express their wishes in their own language, which makes the diversity of your love visible.

The "Shot of Love"

If you prefer it short and fizzy, the Shot of Love is a great alternative.
Prepare small glasses with your favorite drink - in a color that matches your wedding decorations or with a special meaning.
Lavender for peace and devotion, olive green for harmony and stability - whatever you like is allowed.

Friends or family members can help with the preparation and hand out the glasses before or during the ceremony.
After the ring exchange and the kiss, raise your glasses together - a joyful moment full of emotion and laughter.

With this symbolic "Shot of Love" you not only seal your union, but also share the joy with all your guests.

Celebrate your love in your own way

Whether cocktail or shot, both rituals give your secular  wedding ceremony a personal, modern touch.
They show who you are - two people with different flavors that together create something new and unique.

I am a multilingual wedding officiant based in Brussels, Belgium, and create secular and multicultural wedding ceremonies for couples from all over the world.
I regularly officiate weddings in Germany (Berlin, Hamburg, Düsseldorf), France (Champagne, Région Parisienne, Provence), Luxembourg and Denmark - and love to incorporate rituals that reflect your languages, cultures and personalities.

Because the most beautiful love stories - just like the best cocktails - are created from the perfect mix of ingredients.

The candle ritual - light and love for your secular wedding ceremony

Fire - one of the five elements - has been with us since the beginning of mankind. In almost every culture, we find rituals centered around fire. So it's no wonder that the candle ritual is one of the most popular and festive ways to symbolically bring light, warmth and community into a secualar wedding ceremony.

The great thing about it is that you can personalize the ritual and include your closest family members and friends. Especially for multilingual couples or families with different nationalities and cultural backgrounds, this ritual offers a wonderful opportunity to make diversity visible: Each person who lights a candle can share good wishes, quotes or the meaning of a color with you in their native language. In this way, the language itself becomes part of the ritual - lively, emotional and unique.

Four candles - four paths in life

Traditionally, four candles are lit, each symbolizing a stage in your life - past, present, future and finally your love.

1. the candle of the past

This first candle represents your journey to this point: childhood, youth and everything that has brought you together. Who better to light this candle than your mothers? This gives them a special role on your big day - something that is often missing in traditional church or civil wedding ceremonies. Grandparents can also be included here if this is particularly important to you.

2. the candle of the present

The second candle symbolizes your current life - friendships, family, companions. Your siblings, witnesses or close friends can light the candle here. They are the people who accompany you now, support you and remind you in difficult times why you have chosen each other.

3. the candle of the future

This candle opens the view to the future. If you already have children, they can enrich the ritual at this point - with the support of their godparents if they are still too young. But other people can also light the future candle: perhaps friends who will soon become parents themselves, or people with whom you are planning an important project or a trip. The important thing is that it has to feel right and authentic for you. If the topic of children is painful, you can leave out the future candle or fill it with a different meaning.

4. the candle of your love

Finally, you both light the candle of love together - often a larger, personalized candle that you can keep even after the wedding. Many couples relight them every year on their wedding day - a beautiful symbol of your everlasting love.

Design options

Whether classic white, colored or in lanterns: the design of your candles is completely up to you. Each color has a specific meaning, and you can also choose the arrangement individually - on a tray, a wooden disc with glass cylinders (ideal for outdoors) or as a central light object.

After the ceremony, I often take the candles with me to the ceremony location so that the light continues to shine throughout the day.

Personal words make it unforgettable

The ritual is particularly touching if the people lighting the candle say a few words: a short poem, an anecdote from your childhood or a quote that describes your relationship. The meaning of the chosen color can also be addressed. For multilingual weddings, each person can express this in their own language - creating a ritual full of colors, voices and cultures that beautifully reflects the diversity of your union.

My tip as a wedding officiant

During the preparation, I work with you to feel which ritual suits you best. I often invite you to close your eyes and imagine the scene - it almost always becomes clear immediately what is right for you. The special thing about a secular wedding ceremony is that you can design everything to suit you. Whether one ritual or several - whatever feels right for you is allowed.

The candle ritual is a wonderful prelude: It creates a festive, warm atmosphere and gives you and your guests a moment to pause and reflect. A light that connects you - not only on your wedding day, but far beyond.

👉 I accompany couples not only in Brussels and everywhere in Belgium, but also in Germany (Hamburg, Berlin, Düsseldorf), France (Champagne, Région Parisienne, Provence), Luxembourg and Denmark. Especially for multilingual ceremonies, I bring my experience from over 50 international weddings to make your ritual as unique as your story.

Handfasting: How to personalize this special wedding ritual

(Secular wedding ceremony officiant in Brussels, Belgium, France, Germany, Luxembourg, Denmark & Destination)

If you want a secularwedding ceremony , then you certainly want your yes-word to be as unique as your love. If you speak different languages and come from different cultures, you definitely want to integrate them into your wedding ceremony. A wonderful way to make the ceremony more personal and interactive is the handfasting - a ritual that originally comes from the Celtic tradition. It involves symbolically joining your hands with ribbons or a rope - a powerful image of love, unity and connection.

But how can you adapt the handfasting to your story and really make it your ritual? Here are a few ideas:

1. traditional & individual at the same time

If you come from a Celtic background or simply like the tradition, you can use a classic handfasting rope. To make it more personal, match it to your wedding color scheme or have it custom made - for example, through platforms like Etsy. This turns an old tradition into a very modern, stylish element of your wedding ceremony.

2. involve family & friends

It becomes even more personal if you involve your family and friends. Ask them if they would like to weave or knot a rope for you together. This can be a lovely bonding moment even before the wedding. If you have guests from different countries, the rope could even go "on a journey": starting in one country, then sent on to the next - until it finally arrives at my home in Brussels as your wedding officiant and is presented to you as a surprise on your wedding day.

3. tapes with meaning

Instead of a rope, you can also use individual ribbons. Choose the colors consciously according to their meaning - red for love, green for hope, blue for loyalty... Invite your witnesses, siblings or close friends to each hand over a ribbon and say a few words about the color and its meaning. This will make the ritual lively, interactive and a moving moment for your guests to feel honored.

4. a memento for life

You don't just have to put the ribbons away after the ceremony. You can keep the eternity knot that you tied during the ceremony in a beautiful glass jar or picture frame and hang it up in your home. This way, the symbolic power of this ritual will remain a part of your everyday life - a visible sign of your connection.

A handfasting ritual is a wonderful way to personalize your secular wedding ceremony and actively involve your guests. Whether traditional, creative or interactive - the design possibilities are endless.

👉 Are you curious? Get in touch - together we'll find the right form so that this ritual suits you and your love perfectly.

👉I am Katja Nielsen, wedding officiant & specialist for multilingual ceremonies in German, English, French, Dutch, Danish and Italian

👉You can find me in Brussels, Belgium and I am also happy to accompany you on your wedding adventure in Germany, France, Luxembourg, Denmark and your destination in Europe or worldwide

The magic of multilingual ceremonies - farewells that touch hearts

There are moments in life that are so big that words alone are not enough to do them justice. This is exactly why ceremonies exist - be it in joy or in sorrow. As celebrant and freelance speaker, it is my vocation and passion to give such moments special meaning and keep them alive forever in the hearts of those involved.

Last week I had the privilege of organizing a very special farewell ceremony in Germany. It was the celebration of a man whose life was so unique and rich in facets that it would have been impossible to say goodbye to him in a conventional way.

He had a deep love of Denmark and an extraordinary passion for collecting samovars. His children therefore decided to give him a farewell that reflected these passions in a beautiful way. His ashes were buried in his favorite samovar - a symbol of his personality, his interests and the warmth he brought to the lives of those around him.

I was allowed to give the eulogy in Danish. Although many of the guests didn't understand Danish, that was irrelevant. It was the atmosphere that mattered. The words, even if they were incomprehensible to some, carried the soul of the moment. And as we sang his favorite songs together, the room filled with a sad and joyful energy that reminded us all of him: a father, friend and companion who had always made for special moments.

This ceremony was not only a farewell, but also a celebration of his life. It touched me deeply to see how his family and friends remembered him with a smile through their tears.

As a multilingual speaker, it is always an honor for me when the bereaved place their trust in me to create a farewell ceremony that is different - more personal, more unique. Grief has many faces, and I firmly believe that we should not only mourn the loss, but above all celebrate the life that was lived.

A multilingual ceremony offers the opportunity to unite cultural roots, personal stories and emotional connections in a way that transcends linguistic boundaries. It brings people together - no matter what language they speak - and creates a shared memory that touches everyone's heart.

I am infinitely grateful for the people who accompany me on this journey and allow me to be part of their stories. Because it is these stories that make life so special.

With love and gratitude,
Your Katja Nielsen

Step by step to your dream wedding ceremony

Are you planning your wedding ceremony and would like to celebrate your marriage in several languages? If you have found me, you are probably looking for a wedding officiant who can officiate and celbrate your union in English, French, German, Danish, Dutch and/or Italian.

Here you can find out how I design your truly magical wedding ceremony according to your wishes and values, step by step from the first meeting to your big day:

1. You get in touch and we have a non-binding introductory meeting online or over a coffee.

2 I save your date and you have two weeks to consider whether the chemistry is right between us and if you can imagine entrusting me with your wedding ceremony

3. You decide (hopefully;) that you can imagine entrusting me with your ceremony and we make an appointment to meet in person and plan your wedding ceremony in detail.

4 I meet you at your home and you tell me your unique love story. Together we will then plan every step of your wedding ceremony, from youor entrance to your kiss.

I will come with lots of ideas and suggestions for rituals, music etc. and you decide what you want to implement.

5 I will craft your personal speech, organize the material for the rituals you have chosen, talk to your witnesses, friends and family, coordinate the musicians and the entire course of your ceremony ... and not to forget, I will practice your speech in front of the mirror ;)
If you wish, we can also do a general rehearsal

6. On your big day, I will celebrate your union with the wedding ceremony you have been dreaming of and I will spice it up with my style as a wedding officiant and celebrant: joyful, bright and festive

So if you are planning your secular wedding ceremony in Brussels, Berlin, Potsdam, Düsseldorf, Copenhagen, Luxembourg, Paris or Provence, get in touch with me and let's talk about your wedding plans and ideas for your wedding ceremony.

As always with best wishes from Brussels
Katja Nielsen
"More than words"

Multilingual ceremonies Celebration of love and diversity

As a speaker, wedding offivciant and celebrant, I have the privilege of being part of many special moments in the lives of the people I accompany. One of these wonderful experiences is multilingual wedding ceremonies. In a globalized world where people from different backgrounds and cultures come together, it is no longer a rarity for couples to opt for a multilingual wedding. These ceremonies are not only a celebration of love between two people, but also an expression of the bond between different cultures and languages. Here are some reasons why couples opt for a multilingual wedding:

1. Family ties: Often the bride and groom have different cultural backgrounds. A multilingual ceremony makes it possible to include both families and honor their languages.

2. Respect for heritage: If a couple comes from different countries, a multilingual ceremony is a way to honor their roots and celebrate their identity.

3. Symbolic meaning: The use of several languages can be symbolic. For example, a couple who met in a country where they both spoke a common foreign language could incorporate that language into their ceremony.

4. Include guests: Multilingual weddings often include guests from different countries. By using different languages, everyone feels welcome and included.

The challenges

Of course, there are also challenges with multilingual ceremonies:

1. Translation: The correct translation of the ceremony is crucial. The speaker, officiant or celebrant should therefore be able to speak all the languages involved fluently in order to avoid misunderstandings.

2. Smooth flow: Careful planning is required to ensure that the ceremony runs smoothly. The speaker and officiant must find the right balance between the languages and under no circumstances should the speech sound like an airport announcement, but all languages should be brought into a flowing speech.

3. Cultural sensitivity: Every language has its own cultural nuances. The speaker and celebrant should be aware of these differences and treat them with respect.

My experience

As a wedding officiant and celebrant, I have accompanied many multilingual ceremonies. It is a joy to see how love flows between cultures and languages. The challenges are worth it, because at the end of the day, it's about celebrating love - in all its facets.

With this in mind, I wish all couples who opt for a multilingual ceremony a wonderful and unforgettable wedding!

Your Katja Nielsen

Celebrate love

It all starts with love and the idea of wanting to celebrate this love in a beautiful and unique ceremony. First of all, we think of the love between two people. You have found each other and want to reaffirm your love in front of all your friends and family. You want to say YES to each other and your future life together? You are not religious and it is important to you to celebrate this moment with a joyful and festive ceremony?
Then a secular wedding ceremony is a wonderful option to celebrate your love in a way that suits you as a couple. How does such a wedding ceremony work, what is the procedure, what music, what rituals are possible? Can we also sing a song together with everyone or involve our guests actively in our secular wedding ceremony in some other way? Of course we can. There's no such word as "impossible" in secular ceremonies!
Everything is possible and should be 100% as you feel comfortable with it.